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I’m smart, successful, sexy and SINGLE! Bring it on boys.

Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time to celebrate being single and fabulous! And for those of you who are attached, you’ve got your mushy consumer holiday in February. This week is for those of us who live life day to day without someone needing to know where we are at all times or getting jealous that we’re having lunch with a (very hot) co-worker or boy who works on the floor below. (And let me tell you, those boys downstairs are mighty cute!)

Last weekend I was hanging out with one of my gal pals, her teenage sister and some of her teenage friends. We were walking somewhere and they asked me if I had a boyfriend. I proudly announced to them that I was single and very happy about it and they wanted to know how in the world I could possibly be single and actually like it. Honestly, its a maturity thing and a state of mind. Yesterday I was talking with my mom and she asked me if I am happy. “Yes Mom,” I told her, “I am very happy.” Guys I meet ask me if I have a boyfriend, and are shocked when I tell them no. They want to know how a girl like me hasn’t been snatched up by some guy, and I tell them its by choice. I’m tired of being with guys and being nice to guys who aren’t worthy of me or my time. I want to really like the next guy I kiss.

I will tell you this though: there is a small part of me, say about 30% that wants a relationship. That small part of me wants to give someone my apartment key so he can come over whenever he likes, and can be there when I get home from work. I want someone to sleep in my big bed next to me (side link!), to cuddle with me while we watch primetime television on weeknights, to tell me how hot I am when I put on my little black dress and take me some place nice to eat just so he can show me off because he’s proud of who and what I am. Right now there is a small handful of guys in my life who are worthy enough that I would give up my life of fabulous single-ness for a relationship. But the rest of me, that majority 70% is happy being single, dating around and just having a good time. I fight this battle with myself and my single side keeps winning.

The Hookup Handbook: A Single Girl’s Guide to Living It Up by Jessica Rozler and Andrea Lavinthal. Fun book– I gave it to a gal pal for her birthday this past weekend to sort of inspire her to get out there and have fun! It took me about 45 min to read, but is full of some insight and ideas.

Celebrate Love: this page has a list of links to Websites and articles of interest to singles.

National USA Week: the official homepage of Unmarried and Single Americans.

And just for fun, iVillage’s Steamier Sex Diet. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex! But since I’m not having sex for a while, I guess it won’t be doing me any good. I’ll just file it away.